If someone was deeply traumatized during their early years, they can usually live on the surface of themselves now that they are an adult. As a result, they are unlikely to have a strong connection to your feelings and certain needs.
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However, this could be something they are not even aware of thanks to how young they were when this happened and how long their life has been like this. What this will mean is that it will be normal.
The modern world
One could have been on this earth for many, many years, but there is still a chance that they have not received comments from others that reflect what is happening to them. If they had another challenge, like a health problem, for example, it could be different.
The reason for this is that they are likely to live in a society that focuses on physical problems, but does not have the same degree of attention when it comes to mental and emotional problems. Without question, people’s “mental health” is receiving more attention, but this is an area that is still in its infancy.
An analogy
One way of looking at this would be to say that one will be a traumatized person living in a society that traumatizes people, so why would they receive feedback from others? They will be like a goldfish that has only lived in water.
Most, if not all, of the other fish in the water will be in the same position and therefore will not know anything different either. Also, as the society you live in is likely to be overly dependent on technology, living on top, so to speak, will be a necessary part of life.
For instance
When you’re in your own company, you can spend a lot of time using some kind of device, and when you’re at work, the same thing can happen. During this time, they will be very in your head and out of touch with what is happening in your body.
Therefore, they, along with most other people with whom they come in contact, will not need to be in your body to function in society. With this in mind, someone who is firmly ingrained in their mind and more or less dead from the neck down can be seen as part of a modern human being.
A result
However, while living this way may be seen as normal, in general, they will still be estranged from themselves. The support, connection, and integrity that their body provides will not be available to them.
Ergo, when one is not focused on a screen or caught up in something or another person, it can feel empty, disconnected and alone. This will be a natural consequence of them being out of touch with the part of them that will ground them to the ground and allow them to feel connected to others.
Another analogy
It will be as if you own a house that has seven floors but you only live on the seventh floor. Each floor will have a different purpose, and yet they won’t be able to take advantage of what the other streams offer.
Now while this will be the case, one will not realize that they have six other floors and that each of these floors offers something different. Or, if you are aware that there are more in your house and have tried to go to another floor, this may have been a time when you came into contact with something uncomfortable and instantly returned to the upper floor.
A divided being
In other words, they will carry a lot of trauma, and this is something that they will come into contact with if they try to connect with their body. Living in your head will not allow you to keep all this pain at bay, but it will certainly help you.
Some of the pain that remains in your unconscious body / mind will seep into your mind and this can manifest as “irrational” fears, anxiety problems and even the manifestation of at least one “disorder”. Your body will be speaking to you but you will not understand that this is so, much less what it is saying to you.
Self-victimization
Along with the effect this trauma has on their mental health, it will also have an effect on how they experience life and the situations, circumstances, and events that they find themselves in. The ‘negative’ feelings that are kept within your body will rarely enter your consciousness, but these feelings will still influence your life.
What these feelings will do is make you resonate at a certain frequency, and this frequency will cause you to experience things that are an energetic combination. The problem is, since they won’t realize what is happening, it will probably appear that something or someone ‘out there’ is responsible for what is happening.
A natural result
Their first experiences would have been overwhelming and so they disconnected from themselves. This would have been the only way they could handle what was happening; they could not have defended themselves or escaped.
Now that they are adults, it will be up to them to work through the pain that is within them and become more embodied in the process. As this happens, your experience on this earth will gradually change.
Awareness
If you can relate to this and are ready to change your life, you may need to seek outside support. This is something that can take place with the help of a therapist or healer.