I’ve been thinking for the past week, what to write an article about. I was thinking, well everything about how to do it is clearly listed on the blog, what else can I tell people? But then I remembered a problem I had a few months ago and how I got over it.
A lot of guys who come into PUA have the experience, like a client I was with this week did, where they’re making progress with a girl, and they meet last minute resistance when it comes to the bedroom, or that they’re having a good night. with a girl and get her phone number and the girl doesn’t respond to her text messages, or that it was ‘just one night’ or that ‘the moment has passed’
Why has the moment passed? The key to building a strong relationship takes three things I) Touch, ii) Share and iii) common activities. Many of the guys who are learning PUA become great at opening up conversations, or they are the most interesting person in the room because they are well dressed or they smile at people and people come up and want to chat, the PUA then proceeds to deliver interesting stories about themselves he gets the phone number or a close kiss, but then the connection seems to end.
What is recommended is that you build the interaction from the beginning to include cinematics, this means that you are constantly increasing the level of contact without directly conveying that you like the girl (as this will reduce your attractiveness).
Women define the attractiveness of a potential mate on several things, but most of it boils down to how the guy is perceived socially by other people in the wider tribe, if you lower your value by claiming to like him, then she will automatically be attractive to you, it’s best if you seem ‘too good for her’, but sometimes share common interests, and after several minutes of her being interested in your interesting life, pay attention to the metaphorical information that both of you can share about their lives, i.e. silly secrets, silly games, as they have a broader contextual meaning than is obvious on the surface.
After you get the number or the kiss, keep up the contact and sharing and you’ll be sure to keep the girl interested. Remember, only show interest in a girl while doing something that indicates you might be joking.