The question of how to start hotwifing is not as easy to answer as you might think.
Or, rather, there is a simple but not very helpful answer: “just go out and fuck another man, my dear.”
Unfortunately, that’s a recipe for disaster.
Because it’s important to realize that not only are men and women generally wired very differently when it comes to sex, but our reactions after the act is done can be very different than we expected and truly believed. would.
Let’s take first things first: different wiring.
A man’s idea of hotwifing has to do with sex. But the woman, once she calms down and really listens to the idea of her, she thinks more in terms of romance and emotion.
Therefore, you must be careful to make sure that she understands that you are not asking her to have another relationship with someone else. You really don’t want her to have another “boyfriend.”
Do you want her to have a loveor a fucking friend.
What this means is that when both of you are looking for the right man, you should look for him with this role in mind. A common advice is to look for a married man, because he will not want to “get involved”.
Bad idea. In our experience, married men who are willing to become hot wife lovers do so because they are in miserable marriages. So it is almost always better to go for a single man.
Fortunately, some time ago, God invented the Internet, and inevitably more “hook-up” sites have sprung up than you can imagine. Obviously, you should take the usual precautions so you don’t run into a weirdo alone in a graveyard at midnight dressed as Pinocchio, but that’s just common sense.
And you’ll also need to take the usual sexual precautions. More common sense.
Now, you can only do your “first time” once, so it’s important to get it right. When my wife, Joss, played her first time, she was out of the house while I waited at home. It all worked out for us, but in hindsight we thought it would have been safer for us to meet at a hotel bar and book two adjoining rooms.
That way I would have been able to hear them fucking (and I love doing that is somehow better than watching), and would have been close enough for her to call for help if she needed it.
But the biggest thing is that feeling of butterflies. I must confess that when she went to meet her that first time, I panicked. I wanted to call her to cancel everything. She was in a mess…but the moment she walked through the door, I knew everything was going to be okay.
We were lucky, I know other couples are not.
So my advice is to get informed and cover all the aspects for this very important first time for her.