WWe all know what it feels like to be activated. Triggered by something someone says. Or it does. Or because of something we read in the news, or on social media. For some of us, sometimes all it takes is a song on the radio to trigger a round of tears. Or, the sight of a particular person to send us spiraling into anger.
youronly when we feel activated are we remembering something from our past. In other words, we experience the same feelings that we experienced during similar events in the past. It’s easy to blame our triggers on whatever is in front of us. However, as dire as our current situation may seem, it is when we illuminate our subconscious wounds that we begin to remove our triggers.
WWhat is important to realize is that when we trigger ourselves, whether in anger, sadness, or fear, we are essentially powerless. We are less able to think or speak clearly. And, we are more likely to react impulsively, and in ways that we may later regret.
The goal is to help defuse triggers, so we can deal with unpleasant and challenging situations more effectively.
yesOr, how do we do this?
Puse. Notice what you are feeling. And take a breath.
WWhen you feel stimulated, pause to notice what you are feeling. Slow down your breathing. Begin to breathe deeply from your belly. Slow, deep breathing activates the relaxation response.
NONext, as you take a deep breath, tune in to what you’re feeling and use your fingers to pat the fleshy side of your hand. (It doesn’t matter which hand.) This tap will help you interrupt your auto trigger reaction. Additionally, tapping helps reduce cortisol, reduces the intensity of sensation, and returns blood to the brain.
HASAll of this makes your brain more effective and helps you feel better, allowing you to handle your situation more powerfully.
It is easy. By pausing and interrupting your reaction, you will be better able to respond consciously, rather than unconsciously.
B.Because our triggers usually come from painful events, they can actually lead us to the places we most need to heal. If you are having trouble with strong triggers, seek professional guidance to learn how to manage them.
When life feels challenging, it’s easy to get triggered. Have compassion for yourself. Take care of yourself much more.
Wishing you Peace and Well-being,
mariano