Stuck in a friends with benefits situation with a guy? Does it frustrate you that all your conversations with him are focused on the next loot call? Do you want me to stop treating you like a sex toy and start loving you for who you are? Here are 4 tips to break the cycle and turn your lust into love.
Tip No. # 1: forgive and separate.
The first step is the most important, because many women get caught in the “blame game” after a friends-with-benefits situation is broken. Don’t try to blame him for your situation, and don’t try to “get revenge” by making your life miserable. It just doesn’t work.
The best thing you can do is simply forgive both him and yourself for getting into such a mess in the first place. Crazy things happen when emotions run wild! After forgiveness, find ways to get away from it, at least in the meantime. Go see your friends, get to work, meet other men. In other words, start picking up the pieces.
Tip No. # 2: Use the phone or email.
Some people say that the “best” way to break up with someone is through a face-to-face meeting. But that’s not always true, because sometimes a face-to-face meeting makes a breakup impossible. Your emotions could get carried away again, and before you know it, you’ll be in their room again …
Yes, breaking up over the phone or email is not elegant. But it is still the best thing to do. After all, what’s so fancy about a friends-with-benefits situation to begin with?
Stop doing this. If you have to do it by email, go ahead!
Tip No. # 3: Go cold turkey.
Breaking up with a bed partner is pretty much the same as breaking up with a bad boyfriend – you just have to go cold turkey. Without any communication! Delete your numbers, delete your friendship on Facebook, send your clothes back. It is the only way to free yourself completely.
Tip No. # 4: take time to recover.
After you are released from your friends-with-benefits situation, you are not supposed to enter another relationship right away. You are supposed to give yourself a little room to breathe and heal. It will take time to get used to a new life, one that truly invites committed men into your life.
How long? Give yourself at least 2-3 months. He is sure to try to change his mind, so it might be a while before he gives up and walks away.
I hope these 4 tips help you break free from a “sex only” relationship! But here’s a new challenge: How do you attract better, more mature, and more committed men into your life?
That is something I would love to help you with!