People are sexual creatures, so it’s no surprise that almost all new inventions are given a sexual twist on their original purpose. Sex was probably the last thing on Alexander Graham Bell’s mind when he invented the telephone, but that doesn’t make phone sex any less exciting.
What is phone sex anyway?
For the sake of clarity, phone sex is defined as a telephone conversation that is intended to arouse and sexually stimulate the individuals involved. Most of the time, masturbation and orgasms are involved, but that mostly depends on the tastes of the callers. It doesn’t matter if the phone call starts off innocently enough, as long as there’s erotic content meant to stimulate both parties (or more, if you have conference call capabilities), it’s definitely considered phone sex.
Do I have to pay for phone sex?
It depends. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is up for it, then you don’t have to pay for quality phone sex. In fact, phone sex could be a good way to spice up your relationship. Other people without sexual partners may find a friend or acquaintance who doesn’t mind having phone sex with them. However, many people resort to phone sex when they don’t want or have a sexual partner. In this case, you can call a professional for phone sex services. Another alternative is to visit a website intended for people who want to find phone sex partners. Keep in mind that most people who have phone sex with strangers have no intention of scheduling a face-to-face meeting.
How do I initiate phone sex with someone I know?
It’s best not to take it too seriously if you’ve never tried it on a specific person before. If you feel uncomfortable, do it with humor and make your phone sex offer sound like a joke. It’s also a good idea to close your eyes and imagine that the person you’re talking to is standing next to you. If you have difficulty doing this, make your physical environment conducive to sex. Light some scented candles, play some sexy music, etc. wear what turns you on. The important thing is that both parties feel comfortable and sexy in their respective places. Once you’ve established this, you’re ready to go.
*Simple phone sex tip: If you’re not sure how to start, you can tell your partner about the things you’d like to happen. Example: I wish we were lying together naked right now. Or I wish I could press my body against yours.
I’m not sure how to do this right, do you have any tips?
Like physical sexual contact, you need to develop a refined technique to arouse your partner. Your success mainly depends on how well you describe the scenarios, as well as how vividly you visualize them. Time is very important. Just like with real life sex, you have to slow down. This is why you shouldn’t have phone sex when you’re in a hurry. Quickies almost never work over phone sex, mainly because phone sex is most successful when expectations and excitement build.
It’s also important to be considerate of the other person, to make sure they’re actually in the mood for phone sex. Chat about mundane things for a while and learn more about his day, because initiating phone sex when someone’s dog just died never really works.
It helps keep your language casual. Avoid sounding too technical by saying things like I want to slide my penis into your vagina. It’s best if you can add a slang-like twist to the way you say these things.
When it comes to technique, the key is to be graphic but believable. Make sure the movements you make are realistic and that you keep track of the position you are currently in. After all, you don’t want to be interrupted by the other person saying how did that happen? I thought your hand was on my thigh?! It goes without saying that you should keep your graphic descriptions simple. Very long and complicated descriptions tend to confuse a lot of people. You don’t want to sound like a poorly translated Chinese electronics manual.
What are the advantages of having phone sex?
If you’re having phone sex with someone you’re in a relationship with, it’s a good way to tell your partner about your sexual fantasies. It also spices up your relationship, especially since most people forget to sexually please their partner in an aural way (eg, talk dirty, etc.). This is also beneficial for long distance relationships or couples with busy schedules. But remember that phone sex shouldn’t be the only way to satisfy your partner.
For those who have casual phone sex with acquaintances or strangers, the advantage is that you can do as much as you can without worrying about STDs and such. It’s also a great way to learn new tricks that you can apply in bed when you get the chance.
What are the disadvantages of having phone sex?
The problem with phone sex, like most good things, is that some people get addicted to it. When you spend too much time doing it on the phone, that would give you less time to do it physically. It could even kill your sensitivity to the physical and emotional needs of a current or potential partner. Also, if you are using paid phone sex hotlines, you may be incurring too many expenses.