Sex is one of the factors that can make or break your relationship. If you allow it too soon with the wrong guy, you are likely to lose respect for yourself and the guy himself, since this is what he was after in the first place. On the other hand, if you delay him with the perfect man, you may push him to believe that you are not interested enough in taking your relationship to the next level.
After being in and out of many relationships, your ability to realize who is right or wrong for you can be a bit blurry. So, before you shave your legs and spread out satin sheets, use the following five questions to assess your relationship’s readiness for a sexual encounter of the hot kind.
How deeply do you feel for him?
Although it is a cliché, your feelings have an important role in your decision. Here’s the twist though: you shouldn’t be so head over heels in love that you can’t see her flaws. I’ve been so in love in the past that I couldn’t take honest criticism from my friends about the faults I blindly overlooked. This, of course, leads to some serious heartbreak at the end, but that’s another story. Therefore, if you want to start enjoying each other physically, you have to invest in each other emotionally and still be able to recognize each other’s faults and work with them.
Are you mentally compatible?
If you feel strongly against casual sex, you may want to assess your mental compatibility with his. After all, you are trying to take your relationship to the next level and not just end up in bed with him. So, find out what his thoughts are on different topics and find out the man behind the hot body he’s thinking about during those cold and lonely nights. However, remember that this process will take some time because some sneaky guys may fake their opinions to get into your bed. So test him intellectually often, but don’t take him into your bedroom until you’re sure your minds fit.
How comfortable are you with him?
Your comfort level says a lot about your willingness to engage physically with your man. After all, he’ll see you without your makeup and “shape enhancing” clothes. Physical nudity aside, you should be ready to reveal yourself emotionally to him if you feel really comfortable with him. So with no comfort in the equation, you need to take sex out of the bed.
Does he care about your needs?
Aside from those in bed, your man must take care of your emotional and mental needs. If he satisfies both, chances are he is a considerate lover. However, you will have to be fully alert to see if he really goes the extra mile to see you smile. Also, you will need a little more time for this aspect to make sure he really cares and not just pretending.
How bright (or bleak) is your future?
Thinking about your near and far future is important to move to the next level. After all, physical relationships can lead to commitment. If you can’t see him in a few months, let alone years, it might be a bad idea to try something physical, even if it’s just to test how committed he’ll become.
Consider these questions to decide if you’re ready to be introduced to the temptress you keep hidden from the outside world.