Several reasons explain why some relationships fail while others succeed.
“But I love you, I love you.” Are these words enough from one side of a relationship to make the relationship work? Should the same words resonate with the other partner, so that there is a balance in the relationship? Will that make it work? The feelings associated with falling in love, hearing wedding bells, and imagining the piano playing “Here Comes the Bride” can be overwhelming. Sometimes these feelings can reduce a person’s ability to think reasonably.
For love relationships to work, do they have to be approached from the beginning with the right perspective? which? rational rather than clouded by emotions? Like most things, if a relationship isn’t working out, it can be refreshed. There is nothing sadder than investing in a relationship or marriage only to see it turn sour in the end.
There is an old saying: “A person cannot give an orange if the person does not have an orange to give.” In relationship terms, a person cannot offer you something that he does not have to offer you. Eternal love can only be found within a man or woman who has it to offer. When two people belong to each other, they will have this love to offer each other. This mutual love and belonging is known as being soul mates. A soul mate relationship is different from wanting to be with a person just for love.
People often feel that they are in love with someone else, so only their love guarantees a relationship or marriage. Loving someone enough to want to spend the rest of your life with them is great. The question is, should relationships be based on how one party feels about the other? Another question arises. There are times when a man and a woman may love each other very deeply, but do their feelings for each other justify a love relationship or a marriage?
There is love in everyone. The feeling of wanting to share this love with the opposite sex is normal. The secret is to understand that even if one person loves the other, or two people love each other, they may not be right for each other. When two people are not right for each other but try to become lovers based solely on their feelings, is that any different than taking something that doesn’t belong to you just because you feel like you like it?
When you take something that isn’t rightfully yours, you may work too hard to keep it. Relationships are no different. To explain the analogy, when you take something that belongs to you, you may do very little to keep it. Why? Because what you have taken is yours. Makes sense? Think of it this way: when someone steals something, the person will try all sorts of ways to hide it so the rightful owner can’t find it. Whereas if the thief did not steal but took for himself something that he already owned, he would have no cause for concern.
love is great; it is good that it is in all humans and that we can all give love. When using love to enhance or influence the relationship, love must be shared by two people who belong to each other. In this way there is a balance. These two people are soul mates. A soul mate relationship is different from wanting to be with a person just for love. In love relationships of soul mates, because the partners belong to each other, they are not afraid that a new lover will steal a partner. Twin souls belong to each other, so they don’t hide things from each other or try to hold on to each other. Soulmates do very little to maintain their relationship. This is because they have a unique bond.
Twin souls are very safe together. They tend to naturally trust each other. In their relationship there is no reason for jealousy, distrust, control, dishonesty, etc. Twin souls are not accepted on the basis of material acquisitions. They never tire of each other. My research has found that even their voices are therapeutic to each other, naturally calming each other down. The health benefits alone for those in soulmate love relationships are more than words can describe. For example, some researchers have found that soulmates live longer and are happier than those in a love relationship without a soulmate.
There is more to soul mates than meets the eye. In order for two people to come to the conclusion that they are soul mates, each of them must confirm it on their own, without manipulating the other couple into believing that they have received a confirmation. The loving feelings between soulmates go far beyond the love that most men and women experience in their love relationships. In some cases, this loving feeling is described as being so strong that it sometimes makes your heart feel like it might burst.
Soulmates are found in and among all cultures, but not all cultures value loving relationships between soulmates. For example, while researching this topic, I discovered that in cultures such as Japan, it is not uncommon for a woman in a relationship with her soul mate to break the relationship on purpose for personal reasons and self-interest. In my interviews with Japanese women, they explained that the love between soulmates is so strong that it hurts too much when it hurts their boyfriend. In order not to feel hurt when their boyfriend feels hurt, they would rather leave him. One may think, why would someone turn away from her soul mate? As this example illustrates, different cultures see and understand love differently.
Soul mates are men and women who belong to each other. However, the term is very misunderstood. The popular press often tells us of men and women, rich and famous, all claiming to have found their soul mate. We hear about movie actors and other singles who claim the same thing, but within months, sometimes weeks, their relationship falls apart. In some cases, the end result can be bitterness, depending on what one partner has given up to acquire the relationship or lost in the relationship.
To avoid such an outcome, it is absolutely critical that you understand what love is, what a soulmate is, what makes two people soulmates, how to get confirmation that you are with the right person, etc. These things to know are very simple, but knowing them is the best way to find that special someone. Relinquishing this knowledge and its application is a model for ongoing failed relationships as well as marriages ending in divorce. In researching soul mate relationships, I discovered that love alone is not enough to make a love relationship work. The partners must also be soul mates.
It is essential not to confuse falling in love with soulmate feelings. It’s also important to assess health, well-being, happiness, etc., and then decide what steps need to be taken to achieve happiness. In this world, nothing good comes easy or for free. I suggest the following steps to achieve happiness and a lasting soulmate relationship:
– Invest the time to select the right partner.
– Invest spiritually to recognize that the person you are with is that special someone.
– Invest in your relational intelligence by taking courses or reading books about relationships and how to make them work.
Such investments will reap lasting benefits. Above all, they will help you avoid the emotional pain and anguish of inadequate relationships, breakups, and failed marriages that men and women submit to for temporary acceptance. Finding and acknowledging your soulmate is a sure way to find that eternal love that most men and women only dream of. You are here to succeed in your love life. The choice is yours.