Attitude is everything. Mindset, no matter what the end goal is, helps you get there or impedes your progress, and one of the most damaging mindsets anyone can adopt is the victim mindset.
What is the victim mentality?
The victim mentality is a negative mentality. He blames other people and circumstances for whatever unhappiness he feels inside.“It’s the proverbial ‘finger pointing’ scenario.
Those committed to the victim mentality view life through a narrow lens of pessimistic perceptions, believing that everything that happens in life is the result of external causes. Internal reflection is never considered. Being a victim means absolving oneself of guilt. Nothing is your fault, ever! Those involved in the victim mentality often enjoy the attention, sympathy, and validation they get from playing this “woe is me” role.
When we are trapped in victimhood, the focus becomes how vulnerable we are, rather than how powerful we are.
While no one is born with a victim mentality, neither is anyone exempt from playing the victim role. Sweet elderly grandparents, loving and well-intentioned mothers and fathers, teenagers, and even those considered “spiritually awakened” can live in this defeatist realm.
In fact, every person alive has played the role of a victim more than once in their life.
Victims want to be mentally prepared for the worst, and sadly, for those living in victimhood, this self-sabotaging behavior becomes more powerful when things seem to be going well, as they are sure “disaster is waiting for around the corner”.
So how does one break free from this pessimistic, self-destructive, “poor me” type of programming, most of which was developed and adopted as a child?
It all starts at home with your perceptions/how you see yourself. Do you perceive yourself as a survivor or a victim?
Survivors embrace life and flow with it. They live in the present and take control of their lives. They are fully aware that they alone are responsible for what happens. They know that by taking responsibility for their lives, they are empowered to change their lives.
Victims, on the other hand, wallow in self-pity and argue and reject life. They live in the past, believing that they are powerless to change circumstances, their key to avoiding responsibility. They live defensively and remain frozen in time, not progressing because their perceptions tell them that they are powerless.
The cost of the victim mentality is high. It negatively affects all areas of life, professional and personal. Those who see themselves as failures live in victimhood because failure only comes to those who give up.
If we really want to get out of the victim mentality, we must first own it. We cannot change what does not belong to us. We must change our attitude and know that “change begins with me”. We must embrace survival and take action…no matter how small or insignificant it may seem now, toward some goal we seek to achieve.
Most importantly, we must continually empower ourselves with “I can” and “I will” statements and end demeaning “I can’t” and “I won’t” statements and beliefs.
And we must embrace gratitude, the greatest of attitudes. Every day, we need to take time to reflect on all the things that make us happy, on all the things that are going well in our lives. Keeping our mind/energy focused on positive situations helps counter the victim mentality.
In the end, we must honor ourselves with the same degree of respect and love that we try to give to others. Only then will our minds and actions shift from victimhood to survival mode.
The truth is that we cannot control the actions of others or all the circumstances that arise in our lives, but we can control how we react to them. We don’t have to be victims. it’s a choice Whatever happens or comes our way, we should see it as a challenge and not an excuse.
Are you looking for a powerful partner to help you erase the negative victim tapes that play over and over in your head? Look no further than your local gym. Getting your blood flowing and your “happiness and wellness” hormones kicking in through challenging exercise is one of the best ways to overcome negativity, defeat the victim mentality, and put yourself on the fast track to feeling physically, mentally, and physically healthy. emotionally.
“You yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
– Gautama Buddha
The victim needs to realize that small changes in behavior and attitude can result in big rewards.