Whether you’re a swinger or not, it’s normal for guys to wonder about their sexual performance. We all want to be good at sex and make sure that we are giving maximum pleasure to the ladies. I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that I’m aware of my performance every time I have sex. Not to the point where I’m so focused on it that I forget to focus on the lady I’m playing with, but in the back of my mind I want to leave her with a smile on her face after we’re done. Playing.
A lot of it is in the head and not necessarily caused by something physical. A big key to helping you overcome any form of performance anxiety is to remember that if you are in a changing scenario, then the lady is obviously interested in you and likes you enough to allow you to play with her. She has accepted you for who and what you are and she wants to take things further with you. So that should give you enough reason to grow in confidence and to be able to relax knowing that she is genuinely into you and looking forward to continuing. So don’t think too much about what’s going on and what you’re doing.
If you find yourself in a rocking situation, shift to a location that is more comfortable for you. Whether it’s at someone’s home or some other private place where you don’t have to worry about others who may be watching you. If you’re at a swinger resort or swinger party where there’s sex left, right and center, this can also increase your anxiety levels. If you’ve been with this person before and feel comfortable with them, then you may want to get into more adventurous scenarios, such as having sex in front of others eventually, but don’t jump right into the public setting if you think it will increase your performance anxiety. .
As much as we would all love to stay hard and erect all night, we have to accept the fact that men simply cannot maintain a boner for hours on end. Well, there may be a lucky few who can! We all wish we could do that, but unfortunately that’s not going to happen. You want the experience to last, so just control the pace of the encounter and take it easy. If you’re with someone new for the first time, try to get to know her and play the game of trying to figure out what she likes and doesn’t like. Use your arsenal of oral and manual tricks and skills and see which ones are working to be most effective. Treat that as part of the game and the fun of the experience.
Here’s a great piece of advice for you: be careful with alcohol! By all means, have a drink or 2 to help calm those nerves, but stay in control. There are countless stories and occasions of guys who have not been able to perform correctly because their penis was flaccid from excessive alcohol. Don’t let drinking be the cause of your poor performance and subsequent apologies!
So here are some words of wisdom to help you deal with the performance anxiety that we all encounter at some point in our lives.